Cloudy, warm and quiet, even if the ocean is noisy. 62F, wind at 3-13 mph and gusting, AQI16-35, UV4. 100% chance of rain today and 50% tonight. GALE WARNING active through 5pm. It looks like we’ll have some bouts of heavy rain & wind during the day, but it should start slacking off tonight, and then cease sometime tomorrow, only staying showery through lunchtime on Saturday. AFter this we’re looking at sunny, dry weather for the rest of the 10 days.
Yesterday I was up at 9am. Tempus was asleep in front of his computer, but when I woke him, toddled off to bed. I got the coffee that he made for me out of the fridge and started on mail. Once that was done, I went in back, pulled the zucchini from the dehydrator and started on the next batch. I think one more batch and I’ll be done. After that I worked on embroidery patterns for a couple of hours.
We got open on time and Tempus ran over to the pharmacy. After we had coffee, he did some re-stocking on the incense board while I was sorting some stuff in back. After that I started working on the office space while he sorted out some of the stuff that got moved in the candle/embroidery aisle.
Eventually we had some lunch from the soup/stew that got made on Wednesday. After that I wanted to start on herbs, but had to wait because Tempus was working on the table. I pulled out some embroidery, instead, and just didn’t get anywhere. The 2nd cup of coffee was putting me to sleep! I got up and watered plants. I tried to sort things in the office space, and I kept getting sleepier. Oof.
I got some of the zucchini that was dry pulled and into a jar and set up some more of the small squashes, which was the last of those. I just now cleared that out. I have tomatoes to do, but I’m going to let things cool.
Today we’ll be open normal hours. Tempus has errands to run in Newport, and he’s going to do a large shopping. I have the tomatoes to do and with a clean table, to start sorting some of this summer’s harvest and bagging things up.
Today’s feast is the Pyanopsia (Πυανόψια) or Pyanepsia (Πυανέψια) was an ancient Greek festival in honor of Apollo, held at Athens on the 7th of the month Pyanepsion (October). The name literally means “bean-boiling”. Various legumes were stewed and given to Apollo as a “ripener of fruits”. A suppliant branch”, was also offered, that sounds almost like our Christmas trees, but it was left up for a year and then replaced. More information here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pyanopsia
Today’s Plant is Salal, Gaultheria shallon. This is a shrub, an understory plant, that ranges all up and down the west coast, from Alaska to California. They’re an invasive in wild heathlands in Europe, having been introduced back in the 1800’s. There’s a big industry in Oregon, supplying the foliage to florists. The local peoples harvested the berries as a primary food source, drying them into cakes. They make a nice crunchy snack, dried this way or individually. The young leaves are edible, too. One, nearly forgotten use, is medicinally as an astringent. Mashed with some water, they’re a great soother for sunburn or insect bites, even working on yellow-jacket stings. It also works internally on an inflamed digestive tract from ulcers to diarrhea and a tea (simple infusion) will help with a dry cough. Eat the young leaves as an appetite suppressant. – Feminine, Saturn, Juno – Use in spells as the medicinal uses, the appetite suppressant effect, particularly. This is an hardy herb, so it also can be added to spells for added duration. It also works in situations of emotional upset, particularly when there’s a sick stomach from stress. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Salal
Love & Light,
Today’s Astro & Calendar
Waxing Moon Magick – The waxing moon is for constructive magick, such as love, wealth, success, courage, friendship, luck or healthy, protection, divination. Any working that needs extra power, such as help finding a new job or healings for serious conditions, can be done now. Also, love, knowledge, legal undertakings, money and dreams. Phase ends at the Tide Change on 10/1 at 2:05pm. Waxing Gibbous Moon – From seven to fourteen days after the new moon. For spells that need concentrated work over a ¼ moon cycle this is the best time for constructive workings. Aim to do the last working on the day of the Full moon, before the turn. Keywords for the Gibbous phase are: analyze, prepare, trust. It is the time in a cycle to process the results of the actions taken during the First Quarter. During this phase you are gathering information. Give up making judgments; it will only lead to worry. Your knowledge is incomplete. Laugh. Analyze and filter. LOOK WITHIN. God/dess aspect: Maiden/Youth, but in the uncommitted phase, the Warriors – Associated God/desses: Dion, Dionysius, Venus, Thor. Phase ends at the Full on 9/30 at 2:05am.
Now it’s Saturn’s turn to pair with the Moon, while Jupiter shines to their right, as shown above.
The dwarf planet 1 Ceres passes within 5° of magnitude 6 Zeta Piscis Austrinus tonight. You can find the small, magnitude 7.7 world with binoculars or a small scope above the southern horizon. You’ll want to wait a few hours after sunset, letting the sky grow darker and the region where Ceres floats climb higher in the sky. If you have trouble determining which point of light is Ceres, don’t worry — simply take a snapshot or make a quick sketch of what you see, then return to this region over the next few days to determine which “star” has moved. That’s your target.
Nearby is Piscis Austrinus’ brightest star, Fomalhaut, which is famous in its own right. This young star’s seemingly strange name actually fits quite well — it’s adapted from a phrase that means “the mouth of the southern fish” in Arabic. Fomalhaut is nearly 450 million years old and roughly twice the mass of our own Sun. It also sports a large, dusty disk that astronomers believe is forming planets. Recently, however, the Hubble Space Telescope showed that the object astronomers had classified as a young planet was actually more likely the aftermath of a huge collision of icy objects — perhaps protoplanets themselves — in the disk.
Venus (magnitude –4.1, in Leo) rises in deep darkness almost two hours before dawn begins, in the east-northeast. By the time dawn gets under way, Venus shines prominently in the east. While the sky is still dark, spot Regulus below Venus or to its lower left, as shown below for September 26th. Regulus is less than 1% as bright. Watch them close in on each other morning by morning for the rest of the week. They’ll about ½° apart on the mornings of October 2nd and 3rd. Taking a much wider view, Procyon shines high to Venus’s upper right (by three or four fists at arm’s length). To the lower right of Procyon, by two or three fists, lies effulgent Sirius — the brightest star in the sky but no match for Venus. In a telescope, Venus continues to shrink slowly into the distance; it’s now only 16 arcseconds in diameter. And it’s growing more gibbous, 70% sunlit, as it rounds toward passing behind the Sun next winter.
Old Farmer’s Almanac September Sky Map – https://www.almanac.com/night-sky-map-september-pegasus-measuring-sky
Goddess Month of Mala runs from 9/6 – 10/2
Goddess Month of Hathor runs from 10/3 – 10/30
Celtic Tree Month of Muin/Vine Sep 2 – 29
Celtic Tree Month of Gort/Ivy Sep 30 – Oct 27
Runic half-month of Kenaz/Ken/Kebo – September 13-27 – Ken represents a flaming torch within the royal hall, so it’s the time of the creative fire – the forge where natural materials are transmuted by the force of the human will into a mystical third, an artifact that could not otherwise come into being. The positive aspects of sexuality that are immanent in Freya and Frey come into play at this time. Nigel Pennick, The Pagan Book of Days, Destiny Books, Rochester, Vermont, USA, 1992, p. 102 Runic half-month of Gebo/ Gyfu – Sept 28-Oct 12 – Gyfu represents the unity that a gift brings between the donor & recipient. It is a time of unification, both between members of society and between the human and divine.Nigel Pennick, The Pagan Book of Days, Destiny Books, Rochester, Vermont, USA, 1992, p. 102
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Celtic Tree Month of Muin/Vine Sep 2 – 29 – Muin – (MUHN, like “foot”), vine – The grape (Vitis vinifera L.) is a vine growing as long as 35 m (115 feet), in open woodlands and along the edges of forests, but most commonly seen today in cultivation, as the source of wine, grape juice, and the grape juice concentrate that is so widely used as a sweetener. European grapes are extensively cultivated in North America, especially in the southwest, and an industry and an agricultural discipline are devoted to their care and the production of wine. Grapes are in the Grape family (Vitaceae).
Day High Tide Height Sunrise Moon Time % Moon
~ /Low Time Feet Sunset Visible
F 25 Low 2:13 AM 0.2 7:08 AM Set 12:30 AM 57
~ 25 High 9:05 AM 5.9 7:07 PM Rise 4:34 PM
~ 25 Low 2:20 PM 3.5
~ 25 High 8:07 PM 7.0
Affirmation/Thought for the Day – I am the one thing of which my trust is always worthy.
~ Do every act of your life as if it were your last. – Marcus Aurelius Antoninus
~ And I saw that he was holding in his hand a bright red stick that was alive, and as I looked it sprouted at the top and sent forth branches, and on the branches many leaves came out and murmured and in the leaves the birds began to sing. And then for just a little while I thought I saw beneath it in the shade the circled villages of people and every living thing with roots or legs or wings, and all were happy. ‘It shall stand in the center of a nation’s circle,’ said the Grandfather, ‘a cane to walk with and a people’s heart; and by your powers you shall make it blossom. – Black Elk
~ Man! Thou pendulum between a smile and tear. – Lord Byron
~ Fairy tales are more than true; not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten. – G.K. Chesterton
September strews the woodlot o’er
With many a brilliant color;
The world is brighter than before,
Why should our hearts be duller? – Thomas W. Parsons (1819–92)
Magick – 13 Types of Toxic Witches: How To Recognize and Deal With Them – JULY 24, 2018 BY CYNDI BRANNEN – https://www.patheos.com/blogs/keepingherkeys/2018/07/13-types-of-toxic-witches-how-to-recognize-the-signs-and-deal-with-them-plus-a-list-of-healthy-and-unhealthy-boundaries/
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if toxic people, including witches, had big scary eyes that gave them away? Too often they hide their toxicity with charm or desperation. Here’s my list of thirteen types of toxic witches (also applies to Pagans and Regular Humans) with tips for identifying and dealing with them. I’ve added a stone for each type to boost your coping strategies. There are lists of healthy and unhealthy boundaries to help you better know your own and that of others because toxicity leaks into our lives when our own boundaries are weak.
Sometimes you’ve got to love people from very far away even when you know that they are hurting. Then there are those who have to be blocked on social media as an act of self preservation. Not only does this happen in the Witch World, but it’s more likely to since we are often the last resort of the wounded after they’ve been rejected by everyone else. For those of us firmly rooted here, it’s useful to be able to identify the various categories of toxic witches. I’ve added some tips on how to manage them as well, including helpful stones.
Before getting into the typologies, I’ll begin with my general approach: all of these types are typically wounded individuals who are seeking healing. Even if they don’t know it. That doesn’t mean I put up with their behavior, nor should you.
General Tips for Dealing With All Types of Toxic Witches (And Pagans and Regular Humans)
Know your own boundaries. See my lists of healthy and unhealthy ones at the end of this post. Explore them and reinforce them daily.
Be compassionate and empathetic. If this is a struggle for you, see the previous tip. Being kind to toxic people doesn’t mean putting up with their harmful ways, but it does require us to consider whether they are just having a bad day, are hungry or maybe aren’t great with words. Pausing to reflect before categorizing someone as toxic is a sure sign that you aren’t.
Be forgiving…to a point. My general rule is: treat me badly once, shame on you. Twice? That’s on me. If you let someone treat you poorly, they aren’t going to stop no matter how much you care. Again, refer to my point about boundaries.
If someone is harming you, insulting you or “love bombing” you (see below), enforce those boundaries. Walk away. Hit the block button. Self-compassion comes first.
We all can get trapped in toxicity. That’s because we have all been wounded and have shadow selves. The Witches’ Journey is about healing these aspects and growth. Stagnation is a sure sign of toxicity.
A touch of humor is often helpful in dealing with toxic people. However, they can be very damaging. I’ve included some healing and dealing resources at the end of this article.
Now, onto the list of the 13 Types of Toxic Witches. I’ve tried to rank them in order from least toxic to most. Individual experience may vary.
#13 The Drive By Witch
Their toxicity is spread from person to person like pink eye. Annoying, but usually easily cured. They land in your life, very keen to learn and get to know you. The minute you violate their idealized notion of who you are or demonstrate that you can’t magically cure all their problems. *POOF* they vanish. Often will say things like, “you are such a disappointment” if they have an unhealthy dose of the P-A Witch, too (see below). The Drive By often has another type of toxicity, but you may not get a chance to figure out what it is.
How to deal with a Drive By Witch: You may be quite dizzy after an encounter with one. Ground yourself. Know that you did nothing wrong. Be ready for them to drive by again when the next person disappoints them.
Stone: Malachite to ground and protect against another encounter.
#12 The Pseudo Witch
This is not a newbie. Nope. This is someone who poses as a witch in order to learn the mysteries of our ways for their own gain. All that they want is the magic(k). They don’t want to learn the techniques and practices, just get to the part where they manifest a million bucks. You’ll know they because they ask questions like, “so how do you know your spells work?” They’ll also be interested in prosperity magic(k) first and foremost, although they can be just as fixated on sex magic(k). Whatever their obsession, an over activated root chakra is the cause.
How to deal with a Pseudo Witch: Tell them nothing. Ignoring them usually gets rid of them. If they start to cause trouble, then you’re probably dealing with an additional form of toxicity. This is often the case. See below.
Stone: Tiger’s Eye will show you their true nature.
#11 The Nose Blind Witch
Also known as The Self Obsessed Witch. Can’t see past the end of their own nose. Everything is about them. Practices a very selfish form of witchcraft that never involves helping others (unless something is in it for them). Often narcissists, they have an exceptionally low level of self-esteem. They keep focusing on themselves as a misguided attempt at seeking validation from others. These witches are often also love bombers, gaslighters and gurus (see below).
How to deal with a Nose Blind Witch: Not very dangerous unless they have an additional toxicity, but can be super annoying. If you want to have a balanced conversation where your ideas and feelings count, avoid them.
Stone: Carry a chunk of sea salt to protect you from their more harmful attributes and to reverse the conversation so you actually can get a word in edgewise. If they are super annoying, throw the salt at them.
#10 The Fragile Witch
Everything triggers them, including the title of this article so they aren’t reading it. These are wounded witches that haven’t yet found the healing they so desperately need. I have loads of compassion for them. However, their tendency to overreact to everything makes them excessively difficult to be around. Unfortunately, this reduces the likelihood that they’ll find the support they want. Caught up in a vicious circle.
How to deal with a Fragile Witch: Honestly, show them compassion. If they exhaust yours, explain to them *kindly* why you are distancing yourself. They may actually listen. If they don’t, back up slowly sending them healing vibes.
Stone: Make them an energy grid of amethyst, pink quartz and onyx.
# 9 The Martyr Witch
The Martyr thinks that they are being undeservedly persecuted. Everything that happens to them is interpreted as an intentional act of harm. Thinks that there are spirits conspiring against them all the time. Never stops to consider that bad things happen to everyone. Doesn’t understand that painful experiences are an opportunity to grow. Often weeps quietly while hanging on their self-imposed cross. The martyr is often desperate, but rarely asks for money outright. Expects you to know they deserve your time, expertise and cash. When you don’t come through, they get to feel martyred even more. Which is exactly how they like it.
How to deal with a Martyr Witch: if you know this witch well, ask them to consider if there is an alternative explanation to whatever horrible thing has happened to them this time or if there is a lesson in it. Since insight is not their thing, they probably will only think that you are out to get them. You can say you tried. If this is a casual acquaintance, ignore them as best you can. Trying to comfort them usually only leads to more inappropriate self disclosure.
Stone: Black obsidian to absorb their negativity.
#8 The Psychotic Witch
In the Witch World, we appreciate a high level of eccentricity. However, those who are Psychotic Witches are dialed into an entirely different dimension. You’ll know them because their speech patterns are a bit off, but not like someone who isn’t good with words or speaking a second language. Sometimes they’ll make a comment (or entire discussion) that is apropos of nothing. Doesn’t maintain eye contact. Twitchy. Favorite topic: conspiracy theories.
How to deal with a Psychotic Witch: First, make sure they are taking their medication. Psychotic Witches often think they are all better and stop their anti-psychotics. Sometimes they do recover, but if they report that Zeus is in the bathroom again…inquire about their pharmaceuticals. There is a difference between a hallucination and a mystical experience. It can be a fine line. Introspection is often the boundary. If you’ve got a Psychotic Witch in your life, keep an eye on them and do your research. Sometimes they can become violent.
Stone: Fluorite to help you figure out what is going on.
# 7 The Zombie Witch
Going through the motions like a zombie. Has no spark or passion. Probably doesn’t even believe in witchcraft. Maybe they do deep inside, but they sure aren’t acting like it. Someone suffering from depression or other significant health problems can appear to be a Zombie Witch so it’s best to ensure that this isn’t what’s going on before reaching a conclusion. They are ill and need your support. Here’s the thing: hang around a Zombie Witch and they will eat your passion. They can’t stand to be near someone who is vibrant and truly magical.
How to deal with a Zombie Witch: Some zombies simply need a nudge or a kick to get them out of their rut, so try this a couple of times before giving up on them. Shield. Shield. Shield. If their pessimistic ways continue to pick off pieces of you, consider letting them go.
Stone: Red jasper to encourage your own growth.
#6 The Tinkerbell Witch
Causes trouble and self-absorbed. Double-double toxic trouble. Gossip is their preferred form of magic(k). They love to stir the pot and serve you their tasty toxic morsels full of lies and hearsay. They always have to be in the midst of a crisis, often of their own creation but not directly involving them. Watch Peter Pan to understand this type better.
How to deal with a Tinkerbell Witch: These pixies are often double dipping in the toxicity pool. A special magical skill they possess is the ability to make you act like them. If you are having conversations that are mostly malicious about other people, then perhaps the witch you are talking to is a Tinkerbell. Attempt to steer your interactions in healthier directions a few times. If it doesn’t work, consider limiting your contact with them. They are highlighting everyone else’s weaknesses to deflect from their own.
Stone: Opal to activate your self respect so you don’t start being a Tinkerbell.
#5 The Exploding Witch
Prone to disproportionate emotional outbursts including fits of rage, flinging insults and stomping off in a huff. Everything that you say is a personal attack, but instead of the long suffering martyr who quietly sulks, they take it out on you or anyone else who gets in their path. Upsets everyone within firing range and then wonders why no one likes them. If you say something such a witch doesn’t care for they’ll respond by calling you things like “stupid” or “ignorant.” The Exploders are a variation on The Fragile Witch.
How to deal with an Exploding Witch: The thing with The Exploding Witch is that they usually show up, make a mess and then leave. Not much to deal with except to clean up after them. They live to hurt others, so you may need some time to heal after a run-in with one. If one sticks around, explain the basics of common courtesy to them. If they explode again cut them out of your life or force them into anger management training. Sometimes, witches (like all people) just blow up because they lack caffeine or are stressed. Give these ones a second chance.
Stone: Amethyst to help you heal and stand in your power.
#4 The Passive Aggressive Witch
“Whatever you think is best.” That’s the motto of the P-A Witch, but said with a certain tone that says they actually completely disagree. Like the Martyr, the Passive-Aggressive Witch thinks the world has treated them unfairly, but they are simmering with barely concealed rage *unlike that straightforward Exploding Witch*.
How to deal with a Passive Aggressive Witch: P-A Witches can be exceptionally tricky to deal with, especially if they are also skilled at love bombing and gaslighting (below). Without these added toxic ingredients, the P-A Witch gives us a headache. With them…see below. Call the Passive Aggressive Witch on their foolishness. Ask them yes or no questions. Give them exactly what they don’t want: to be taken at their word. Their hidden meanings and ulterior motives aren’t your business.
Stone: Blue agate to help you clearly communicate with them.
#3 The Guru Witch
Guru Witches want you to blindly follow them. Everything they say is to be believed without question. Their way is the only way. Sometimes also exploders. And gaslighters and love bombers (see below). Guru Witches are often begging their supporters for money. Guru’s often are constantly reminding you of how wonderful they are. This is entirely different from healthy self-promotion where an expert witch shares their experiences and qualifications appropriately.
How to deal with a Guru Witch: I don’t recommend trying to. I urge you to consider the thought leaders and teachers you currently work with to evaluate whether or not they are a Guru Witch. A sure sign: no clearly stated code of ethics. Not everyone states these publicly, so ask. If you don’t like the answer, go elsewhere.
Stone: Smoky quartz to protect and reveal them as they truly are.
# 2 The Love Bombing Witch
“You are the most talented witch I’ve ever met! The Gods have brought you to me!” Sound familiar? Then you may have already encountered the Love Bombing Witch. Their enthusiastic over-the-top praise never ends…until it does. Then they accuse you of all manner of malicious acts. You know why? Because you failed to live up to their ridiculous expectations. Can’t tell if you are being love bombed? Refer to the lists of healthy and unhealthy boundaries below.
How to deal with a Love Bombing Witch: I’m not sure if you can maintain a relationship with a love bomber. This is sometimes just poor boundaries but others it’s a specific type of gaslighting. I don’t think it’s worth the risk of staying around long enough to figure this out. If you are intent on doing so, do not believe anything they say. Yes, you are amazing. No, you are not that amazing.
Stone: Pink Quartz to feel real love.
#1 The Gaslighting Witch
Dealing with a psychopath is bad enough. Add magic to their toxic tool kit and you’re in for a rough ride. Psychopaths have lots of skills to manipulate others, but I think their best one is convincing us that it is all our fault. Known as gaslighting, this horrible technique is the hallmark of psychopathy. You will be so confused that you may forget your own name.
How to deal with a Gaslighting Witch: GET ALL THE WAY AWAY FROM THEM NOW.
Stone: Throw all your stones at them and run. I’m being serious.
That’s my list of The Thirteen Types of Toxic Witches. I’m sure I’ve missed some, let me know your thoughts.
The Best Way to Deal With The Toxic 13: Understanding Boundaries
The best way to deal with any of the Toxic 13 listed above is by understanding boundaries, both your own and those of others. I’m including the two tables below that I use as teaching tools in my witchcraft courses to help you better understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy ones. Registration for my course on Modern Hekatean Witchcraft is currently open, so if you are into The Dark Mother and personal development through witchery (including boundary witchery) you can learn more here.
Silliness – Memory Course
Seems that this old couple are having trouble remembering things, so they sign up for a memory course. The course is wonderful and introduces them to a technique called word/name association. They come home and tell all their relatives, friends, and neighbors about it.
Some months later, a neighbor approaches the man as he tends the garden.
“Say, Ed, what was the name of the instructor of that memory course you liked so much?”
“Well, it was…hmmm…let me think a minute… What’s the name of that flower, you know, the one that smells so nice, but has thorns on the stems…?”
“You mean a rose?”
“Yeah, that’s it…(shouting toward house) Hey, Rose, what was the memory course instructor’s name?”